self-love isn’t something that’s talk about often. However, we often hear people telling us to do things for others and be good to others. They rarely ever tell you to be good to yourself and do things for yourself.
Sometimes, when you start focusing more on yourself, people might call you selfish or self-centered. Well, guess what, thee certain times in your life where you do need to center your attention to your self.
With that being said, keep in mind that my definition of self-love might be different from your definition of self-love. However that you define your self-love, remember that self-love in its foundation is whatever that brings you happiness in life and makes you feel like you are living for yourself.
So let’s get started on these 5 simple ways to practice self-love.
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Forgive your past/ Live in the present
I’m sure most of us have things that we’ve done in the past that’s made us feel embarrassed, ashamed, and sometimes awful. It gets hard to move on from things like that. NO matter how hard we try, they linger in the back of our minds ready to creep back up.
I have those moments. You’re never ready for when they might come up. But when they do, they leave you feeling small and still embarrassed. I’m here to tell you that it’s time to move on from those feelings. You are not your past. We all make mistakes and we are allowed to move on from them.
Next time those feelings creep back up, don’t quickly push them away. Acknowledge them, acknowledge why you’re feeling this way. Deal with those feelings and allow yourself to move on. Allow yourself to be rid of your past mistakes. Tell yourself that you were young and naive and wouldn’t do these things anymore. Allow yourself to move on.
Learn to say no
Learning to say no is empowering. It’s you taking back your time and freedom and deciding what to dow ith it.
Man, did I have a problem with this one? It’s something that I realized from last year. I hated for people to be disappointed in me. I hated telling people no. You could say I was a people pleaser.
But you know what, I hated the feeling of not being happy with what i was doing. Yes, I was making someone else happy, but I was unhappy and uncomfortable often doing things for others that I really Didn’t want to do.
I had to learn that saying no doesn’t mean I’m a bad person. Having someone being disappointed in me doesn’t make me a bad person. Sometimes, saying no is the best thing you can do to protect yourself and your happiness.
Limit your news intake/ Social media
I don’t know if this is an American thing but man, does America consume news. I mean We consume news like food. We watch it first thing in the morning, we take time to read it at our lunch, and often take time for it at night too. I learned this from listening to Les Brown’s motivational speech.
In one of his speeches, he speaks of how much news we consume and how it can be a detriment to our mindset and daily health. Think of this way, you wake up and the first thing you do is watch the news. The news is rarely happy. Watching something so gruesome and sad first thing in the morning kind of sets the tone for the rest of our day. As for social media, Most of the time it does nothing but wastes our time scrolling through thousands of memes and posts.
Instead of listening to the news first thing in the morning or watching our fave celeb’s stories, put on some music or a motivational speech to get your day started in a better tone.
Listen to podcasts or motivational speeches.
I’m telling you right now, If you don’t listen to motivational speeches, you need to start RIGHT NOW. Sorry for yelling but I just wanted to get my point across. Listening to motivational speeches in the morning has a way of making me feel like im on top of the world and can handle anything that comes my way.
One of my favorite people to listen to is Les Brown. He is amazing and his voice is so energizing. You can find a lot of Brown’s videos on youtube. He talks about plenty of different topics. For example, He has a speech on how to improve your self-esteem, How to love yourself, How to feel confident about yourself, etc.
Here’s a list of 10 great motivational speakers that you can start listening to. And yes, Les Brown is a part of that list.
Spend some time with yourself
We live in a world that glorifies workaholicism. The more you work, the better you feel about yourself for staying busy and being productive. While working is something that is necessary for today’s society, taking breaks is also important for your physical, emotional and mental health.
This might be hard depends on your living situation. You might be a mother with multiple kids who never leave you alone, you might have a large family and share room with siblings. However, there are many ways to spend time with your self.
You can choose to go for a walk in the morning. Go to the movies by yourself or eat out by yourself. You can take those free time and read or choose to pamper yourself. Drink some tea, take a long and relaxing bath, or write down your thoughts ina journal. The key point is to spend some time by yourself and learning more about who you are.
Remember self-love is imperative
in helping you continue a happier and less stressful life. No matter who you are, you need self-love. It’s good to put your feet up and take a break from the daily hardships that life sends our way. Besides taking a break only help us recharge and come back stronger than ever.
There are times where you need to take a break and focus on yourself and do things that benefit your well-being. Self-love is imperative to living a happier life. And in the words of RuPaul, “if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gon love someone else?”
I truly hope you enjoyed this post as much as I enjoyed writing it. These aren’t rules but more of guidelines that have helped m especially when I’m feeling stressed and overwork.
What are some of your ways of practicing self-love?
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See you next time.